It can be hard to gain back trust for your partner after they have hurt you and the same goes both ways. If you’ve hurt your partner and you want them to trust you again, it will take a lot of hard work on both sides.
Cheating isn’t the only thing that can beak a relationship and it can be lying, not listening to their wants and needs and ignoring their feelings. People that have anxious attachment styles might feel jealous and might end up being abusive in some way or another. Having not trust can make these behaviors stand out even more.
If you lose trust in your relationship, it will be hard to get back. Your partner doesn’t trust you because of how you acted, and they will constantly be wondering if you’re going to hurt them again.
Hurting your partner will cause things to be lost for a while. You might need to give them space and know that it will take time for things to feel normal or good again.
Here are some ways that you can start rebuilding the trust:
- Admit Your Errors
The best way to make your partner trust you again is to admit that you messed up and be honest with them. Tell them the things that you haven’t told them and that they might find out about later.
- Give Them Time
There has to be time given when there is hurt and betrayal in any relationship. You can’t expect them to be over it tomorrow. Tell them that you were wrong and be open and honest with them for as long as it takes.
Being patient is important and once you hurt someone, moving forward in the relationship can be hard. If they don’t fully trust you yet, arguments can breakout. Take things slow and keep communicating.
- Be Kind
Don’t criticize them for what they are feeling but learn to be gentle and kind. Criticizing will make them trust you less. Love them even when they are mad at you and don’t shut down or get defensive.
- Accept the Change
Hurting your partner might bring about a permeant change. You will have to accept that this change is there and learn to love it for what it is. Even if the relationship ends, you can work towards being better for your next one.
- Be Present
When you talk to your partner and you are working on issues, make sure that you’re being fully present with them. Make eye contact, put down your phone, communicate and allow them to show their emotions. This is a way that you can make them feel that they are important.
It will take time for your partner to trust you and as you try to rebuild this trust you will see that this can happen in some relationships.
- Listen and Hear
Don’t just listen to your partner and not really care but learn to listen and hear what they are saying. Validate what they are feeling and invest your time. Repairing trust takes time but as you listen to them and you start building back the trust, you are putting in effort to show you care.
- Find Out Why You Hurt Them
Show your partner that you are trying to better yourself and that you don’t want to make the same mistake again. You have to let your partner see that you aren’t going to hurt them again.
Spend time with them by doing things that you both love. This can help you to start bonding again. Once your partner is ready to start rebuilding the relationship, the communication will be better. Make sure that you are communicating the best that you can to keep trying to build that trust up. Invest in the relationship and be romantic towards them as they learn to love and forgive you.