Save It or Give It Away?
Giving each other meaningful gifts as a token of affection is one of the best things about being in a relationship. But should you keep these gifts when the relationship ends? Do you believe it would do you good if you save these gifts from your ex? Or, do you let it go? Well, that depends. When you look at the gifts, do you think about your past or does it bring up negative feelings or happy ones? Do these gifts make you long for what used to be? Does the connection distract you or keep you from moving forward? Here are a few things to consider.
Are You Still Friends?
Some exes can be good friends. If your ex is still a part of your life, in a platonic, friendly way, keep the gifts they gave you while you were in a romantic relationship. If you can be friends with your ex, chances are you have some nice memories of your romantic relationship. And if that’s the case, there is no reason why you can’t continue to enjoy the gifts they gave you when you were a couple.
If you are on bad terms with your ex, the gifts they gave you when you were together can be a constant reminder of the drama and the negative feelings you have for them. If that’s the case, ditch the gifts they gave you. They’re just material items that can be replaced. Why sacrifice your well-being for a necklace, book or concert T-shirt?
Sell Your Memories
If you want to get rid of the gifts, you can turn old memories into new opportunities and cash! Just because an object brings up bad memories for you, that doesn’t mean someone else can’t make good memories with it. Sell your unwanted gifts! Then use the money you make to buy yourself something nice. How about a new outfit or makeover to refresh your look and attract someone new? If you’re already in a relationship, you can even spend the money you make on a gift for your new partner!
Trade Your Memories
Another option is to trade your unwanted items. Why not throw a party, invite your friends, and ask them to bring unwanted gifts from exes? Have some food, drink some wine, and watch someone else walk away with your bad memories. Maybe you’ll take someone else’s bad memories home with you and give them a new life as something that brings you joy.
Donating your items to charity is a wonderful way to do a good deed while unburdening yourself of negatively charged items. There are local churches, women’s shelters and other nondenominational groups that would happily accept your items. You could be making a huge difference in someone’s life while improving your well-being at the same time. Someone else will create entirely new memories with the objects you donate.
They’re Just Material Objects
Remember, they’re just material objects, and the truth is, you don’t need them—especially if they remind you of the bad times. So why not make a little money or help someone in need? You’ll feel a lot better letting these gifts go than you would if you kept them.