Your closest companion laid down with your ex. They stole from you. They imparted a certainty to others. They slandered about you. The rundown could continue endlessly, as could the inspirations. Maybe they are desirous, subtly irritated, or experiencing low self-regard themselves. Notwithstanding their reasons, their activities have harmed you and now you need to choose what to do about your fellowship and recovering your life.
The first step is to determine whether their action was a conscious one. Betrayal to one person may not be the same to another. Here is where a tarot card reading may assist, perhaps asking if that person is beneficial to you. In this manner you may give yourself time to decide how you want to react based on what their beneficence (where their heart is) towards you is, and react from a place of strength and forgiveness.
About forgiveness…
Forgiveness is essential to your own soul, not because they have asked or deserved it, but because you deserve peace. Forgiveness is quite literally the first stage in you overcoming the betrayal and moving on with your own life. It is a conscious decision on your part to journey past the hurt.
If you find yourself holding on to the anger and pain, try envisioning your heart as simply a holding place for all of your emotions. Picture the rage and hurt taking up space in your Heart Locker, how much space are they taking up? With those emotions taking up that much room, maybe there isn’t room for the good emotions, so now it’s time to make room for the positive emotions like love, joy, compassion.
Envision a happy thought, any happy thought. It could be a completely unrelated memory or the hope of what might yet come. A relationship psychic can even assist you in defining a potential for your future with a telephone or online reading if you are having trouble coming up with one your own. Hold those positive emotions in your vision and imagine them pushing the negative ones out.
Forgiving does not automatically mean you must commit to remaining friends, either. Friendship requires trust and mutual respect. If you believe you’d like to find a way to salvage the relationship, you need time to heal and they need to demonstrate that they understand your feelings. This doesn’t mean you should hold their betrayal over their heads (this goes back to forgiveness), but you also don’t have to say you’re “over it” when you’re not.
Set boundaries for the relationship in the beginning. Maybe only see one another in groups of people or for set periods of times (an hour for coffee or a meal, etc.), and certain subjects are off limits. Perhaps you’d rather they didn’t simply call you to chat on the phone and instead make appointments to meet via text or email. Make clear where your comfort level is, communicating what you need in kindness and, if your friend is serious about saving the relationship as well, they will respect those limits.
And if they don’t? If the betrayal was too much or you find they aren’t respecting your boundaries? Breaking up is hard to do, even when it’s just a friendship, but you have to do what is right for you. This is why you need to allow yourself time to reflect, discover if it is worth saving, and if it’s not you can move forward in confidence.
This isn’t to say you won’t grieve, because you will, but their poor decisions are their fault, not yours.
Spend time with people who treat you right, meet new people, and eventually the grief and pain won’t be as front and center as it feels today. Consult your horoscope and astrology to know more about your relationship and friendship path.
It’s important to recognize that ending a friendship can be as emotionally taxing as ending a romantic relationship.
Setting boundaries in a relationship post-betrayal can be challenging, but the article offers practical steps to make this transition smoother.
The suggestion to consult with relationship psychics and use horoscope guidance is unconventional but might be helpful for those who believe in such practices.
I agree that while unconventional, these tools might offer comfort and direction to some. Different solutions work for different people.
Indeed, incorporating spiritual guidance can provide a unique perspective and possibly aid in the healing journey for many individuals.
The idea of using tarot or astrology for guidance is intriguing. However, I believe self-reflection is equally, if not more, important.
Agreed. While external tools can provide perspective, inner clarity often comes from sincere personal introspection.
The idea of visualizing positive emotions overtaking negative ones is a useful technique for emotional management. It’s a simple yet powerful mental exercise.
Forgiveness as a path to personal peace is a crucial point. It shifts the focus from the wrongdoer to one’s own well-being, which is important in the healing process.
Breaking up a friendship is difficult but sometimes necessary. This article does a good job of addressing the complexities involved in such decisions.
Absolutely, the nuances of ending a friendship are well-articulated, acknowledging the emotional weight while providing clear steps forward.
Setting boundaries and clear communication are fundamental aspects of any healthy relationship, be it friendship or otherwise.
It’s interesting how the article combines practical advice with spiritual tools like tarot and astrology. Different perspectives can certainly aid in emotional healing.
Forgiveness does not equal reconciliation. Trust needs to be rebuilt over time and through consistent actions.
Allowing oneself time to reflect and deciding whether the friendship is worth saving based on mutual respect and trust is a thoughtful approach.
The recommendation to spend time with supportive people is vital. Surrounding oneself with positivity can aid in the healing process.
Visualizing positive emotions can be a therapeutic exercise, helping to displace anger and pain over time.
This article provides a balanced approach to handling betrayal in friendships. The emphasis on forgiveness and setting boundaries is particularly helpful.
While the guidance on handling betrayal is comprehensive, it would be beneficial to also consider professional counseling for such emotional challenges.
The emphasis on forgiveness as a personal journey is quite insightful. Forgiveness often benefits the forgiver more than the forgiven.