Has your heart been broken or is it broken now, and you aren’t sure what to do? You feel sad and you feel emotional, and you aren’t sure where to go next. The problem is that grief is different for everyone, and it isn’t always easy to understand.
There is no fast way for a broken heart to heal but once your heart is broken, you need to look after yourself and figure out what you need. Here are some things you can do:
Take Time to Grieve
You need to take time to grieve when your heart is broken. You have to give yourself permission to work through your broken heart. You will feel sad, angry, lonely and sometimes you need to grieve longer than others.
Take Care of You
Make sure that you are taking care of what you need. This doesn’t mean just physically but also your emotions. You can take time to meditate and to do breathing exercises so that you can feel better. Eat things that are healthy.
Tell People What You Need
Everyone deals with a broken heart differently. Make sure that you are telling people what you need and that you are reaching out to people that you need.
Write it Down
What to do:
- Make a list of things that you need.
- Write down the support you could use.
- Write down your needs on note cards.
- When people ask what you need, give them one of your cards.
Go in Nature
Spend time out in nature. Even doing this a couple hours a week can make you feel better in your mind, spirit and emotions.
Take time to read a book on self-help and to read things that bring you joy. This will help you to not feel bored or alone.
Try New Things
Go out and try new things. Journal something or go to the gym. Pick up a new hobby that you have always wanted to try.
Talk to a Professional
If you are having trouble getting over your broken heart, take time to talk to a professional. When grief gets too hard, you need to make sure that you are speaking to someone that can help you.
Try New Habits
It is a good thing to grieve and to get through things that are hard, but you also need to try to make new habits that are healthy.
Be Truthful About What You Feel
Make sure that you aren’t trying to hide your pain or keep it from yourself. Be truthful about what you are feeling and what you need.
Love yourself and be compassionate with yourself. Make sure that you are telling yourself that you are okay and that you are able to work through your hard times.
Take time in your schedule to make space for yourself. When you are relaxed, give yourself time to process what you are feeling.
Make New Traditions
Don’t stay in the same traditions that you are stuck in but try new things. Spend holidays in new places or make new memories and traditions.
Journal your feelings and make sure that you are reading it over or sharing it with someone that can help you.
Go to online support groups or go to an in person support group. This can help you to share your feelings with others.
Connect with Your Own Body
You need to exercise, and you need to go outside and think about who you are and what you want in your life. Allow your healing to come and make sure that you are being realistic with what you want and need and expect.
Everyone grieves and goes through hard times. Here are some other things to remember:
Your Feelings are Valid
No matter what you have went through, these are valid things. Don’t let others tell you that they aren’t. No matter what you have lost and why your heart is broken, that is important.
You don’t have to compare what you went through with other people. Don’t try to see if they deserve to grieve and you don’t.
No Time Limit
There is no time limit on how long you can grieve. Take as much time as you need to heal.
It is There
No matter what you do, the grief is going to be there. Don’t try to avoid it.
Expect Intense Things
Grief can be intense sometimes. Sometimes your emotions will be so strong and will feel like they are out of control.
There will be times that you are happy and when you are, this is good too. Focus on the good things that are going on around you and try to not be negative.
It’s Okay to Be Hurt
It is okay to be hurting. You don’t have to explain this to anyone and you don’t have to hide your heartbreak.
The suffering won’t go away right away but eventually it will. Accept that you are grieving and learn to take the time that you need to heal.
The truth is, having your heart broken is hard. Don’t try to avoid your grief but if you face it head on then you will be able to work through it. When grief comes, love yourself, be patient and just wait.