download (1)Every other day, we come across a post on Facebook with a couple busy publicly shaming each other and with no remorse whatsoever. I don’t know, maybe they do so for the fun of it. Screen shots are taken and they become viral. Memes are made and, according to me, lives are destroyed. It’s not funny to take your personal matters to social media unless it is something that would affect the public and people need to be warned.

For example, the given person might have been a criminal, and then it would be your responsibility to warn people around you but don’t go to Facebook for petty matters. I don’t remember once that my partner shamed me on social media in any way.

Facebook is a powerful tool for connecting people and ideas. Members of the site have been shown to foster more close relationships with others, scoring several points higher on tests of companionship and emotional support in a 2011 Pew Research Center study of Americans’ Internet habits. And more than ten percent of the entire world are citizens of the Facebook nation.

shutterstock_212603929-1000x450I’m pretty sure the only thing to even do on Facebook is hide Candy Crush requests with a gun in your mouth. So yeah, dipping your relationship into that internet toxic waste dump isn’t the most rewarding endeavor.

There are basically two ways relationships appear on Facebook, and they’re both bad. First, the couples that air dirty laundry.

As a reference point, here are the three most cringe-worthy things in the universe

  1. Donald Trump’s Twitter account
  2. The mere existence of Juggalos
  3. Couples bitching about each other on social media.

But that doesn’t stop trashy couples from arguing over whatever dumb sh*t on Facebook. Plain and simple, it says you don’t give a f*ck about your partner’s feelings, about privacy and about your relationship.

productmockupYou’re not a team if you’re willing to spar in front of other people like an audience; you’re literally combatants. And that doesn’t even begin to mention all the passive-aggressive posts. “That feeling when SOMEONE forgot to pick up Arby’s on the way home for your birthday — feeling quixotic.”

Yes, I know that roast “beef” equals true love, but maybe address it with your partner? All it says is you’re looking for external validation for your feelings. You know what a real couple does when something goes wrong? They talk about it and figure out how to keep from hurting each other’s feelings in the future.

The second way couples appear on Facebook takes the form of “envy our perfect life” over-sharing couple. Don’t be jealous; their Facebook wall is quite literally a façade. It’s like they’re trying to convince themselves by repetition. Shouldn’t a great relationship speak for itself?

Or perhaps it’s an unhealthy obsession with their image, rather than the relationship itself.

NFL legend Walter Payton once said, “When you’re good at something, you’ll tell everyone. When you’re great at something, they’ll tell you.”

People notice when you’re in an amazing relationship. It reflects in your life in so many ways. We all want to shout it from the mountaintops now and then, but how creepy would it be to call every one of your friends and family every day and remind them you still love your partner?

polls_iStockHappyCoupleB_2004_4632_answer_3_xlargeThat’s what nonstop Facebook posting amounts to.

In short, great relationships are the antithesis of the above couples. They resolve issues without getting innocent bystanders caught in the crossfire. The person they most want to share the joy of their relationship with is each other, not 400 strangers.

They know that there’s value in secret little moments that no one else gets to know about. They know that showing your love through a third party lessens its sincerity because when you have an audience, everything feels like a performance.

They don’t spend time on Facebook; they spend it with each other.


  1. The mention of Walter Payton’s quote is quite relevant. It effectively illustrates the difference between genuine happiness in a relationship and the need to over-share on social media.

  2. The points raised about the importance of direct communication in relationships are quite valid. It’s a reminder that personal matters should stay personal.

  3. The discussion on the facade of ‘perfect life’ on social media is compelling. It raises questions about the authenticity of online personas.

  4. The article’s analysis of relationship dynamics on Facebook is thought-provoking. It underscores the need for privacy and direct communication.

  5. The article provides a comprehensive view of how social media can negatively impact personal relationships. It’s a well-rounded perspective that’s worth considering.

  6. The article makes a valid point about the negative consequences of airing personal matters on social media. It’s a reminder of the importance of handling relationship issues privately.

    • Absolutely. The idea of resolving conflicts directly rather than involving an online audience is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship.

    • Yes, handling issues privately can prevent unnecessary drama and maintain the integrity of the relationship.

  7. It’s interesting how the article contrasts the public airing of grievances with the more private handling of relationship issues. This dichotomy is something worth pondering.

  8. The article brings up some intriguing points about the misuse of Facebook in relationships. It highlights the negative impacts of public shaming and over-sharing in a balanced manner.

    • I agree. The article makes a strong case for maintaining privacy and addressing issues directly with one’s partner rather than seeking external validation.

    • Indeed, the discussion on how Facebook can affect personal relationships is worth considering. The comparison to real-life interactions provides a stark contrast.


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