Are you thinking if your lover’s wandering eye indicates an unfaithful heart? Or maybe if your partner’s business trips include something that they’re not telling you about? Are you starting to question if it’s really their sister calling on a cell phone at midnight?
If you suspect your beloved may be cheating, it may indeed be time to leave, or it may be a chance to actually make things work. If you haven’t addressed the issue and it’s just a suspicion, they may not even be cheating in the first place! But whatever way your situation shakes down, the point is, if you’re concerned that your lover has been out on the sly (whether actually physically involved with someone else or involved in a cyber affair), you need to consider why you’re in the relationship, as well as your role in the problems.
This doesn’t mean that it’s your fault if they cheat – it’s up to them to be honest with feelings and activities, and in a worst case scenario, leave you before getting involved with someone else. But it is your fault if you elect to be the helpless victim.
5 tips to tell
Before flying into a jealous rage (not that that’s ever desirable behavior, but sometimes it’s unavoidable), take a good look at your partner. What makes you think they’re up to no good? Could you be imagining things, or even worse, projecting? The following are some signs that most experts list as potentially indicative of unfaithful behavior:
1. Out of the blue, your lover is extra concerned with the way they look.
2. Your sex life steams up or slows down significantly. For little or no reason, they start picking fights with you.
3. The time they spend at work skyrockets.
4. Your lover develops new or unusual tastes in food or pastimes.
5. They’re hooked on the Internet and click off when you walk into the room.
Intuition
While all of these signs can indicate cheating, remember that most of the time you can trust your gut. If you have a history of questioning things without reason (it’s common to feel insecure in relationships, this is something you can work on), then there’s a good chance you’re psyching yourself up for nothing here too. However, if you generally have good instincts and something seems to be amiss with your sweetie, then the best thing to do is address it.
There’s no point wasting anyone’s time in a relationship that’s not working – especially your own! Whether you decide to mend your fences or move on, you’ll have the peace of mind that comes from taking care of yourself. Don’t be anyone’s victim!
The signs listed for detecting infidelity are interesting, but they could also be indicative of other issues within the relationship.
Good to see that the article doesn’t jump to conclusions and suggests a balanced approach to dealing with relationship doubts.
It’s crucial to address issues directly rather than letting suspicions fester. Open dialogue is always a better route than assumption.
While the advice seems practical, it would be useful to see some concrete strategies for addressing these concerns with a partner.
Taking care of oneself and avoiding victim mentality is sound advice. Healthy relationships require effort from both parties.
The mention of projecting insecurities as a cause for suspicion is noteworthy. Self-reflection can often reveal the true source of doubts.
The article brings up some valid points about intuition and clear communication in relationships. Trusting your gut can often provide the clarity you need.
I appreciate the emphasis on personal responsibility. It’s important to consider one’s own role in relationship dynamics without taking undue blame.