Change is an inevitable part of life so whether we accept or not then things will change and one of the things that can change a lot in your life is the nature of your relationships with your parner.

Almost everyone has to date around and search for their soul mate before finding the one that will last. Along the way to true love, sometimes you meet people who can become a valuable part of your future, even if it is no longer romantically. While some breakups or divorces should be a final parting of the ways, others leave themselves open to the possibility of post-breakup friendship.

How exactly do you go from being lovers to being friends? It is best to bring this topic up during the breakup. Even those tempers may be flaring, both you and the other person have to agree as to whether this is the right course of action or not.

Patience, communication and a mutual understanding of boundaries are essential components of good friends and lovers. But, bear in mind, since feelings can get hurt in a breakup, becoming friends right away may not be a realistic goal. Try to be patient if they show signs of uncertainty or want to delay becoming friends until further down the road.

It will not work if only one person is committed to being friends afterward. If they say no, or are not ready yet, really listen to them and respect their decision to move on without you. This may be the easiest and healthiest plan for them. However, if both former lovers are determined to become friends after their romantic relationship ends, this can be a beautiful thing which can blossom into a long term and meaningful friendship.

One of the benefits of having a friend who was once a lover is that they know you so incredibly well already. They know your likes, dislikes, preferences and secrets. In this sense, trust is already established. And, as you know, trust is a key component to a great friendship.

They already know about any problems or strife you have at work or with your health. And, having someone in your life who knows the intimate details of your own personal struggles can be very reassuring and helpful. Chances are they have already met your friends and family as well. This makes it easier to share joyous or tragic news with them, because they know the other players in your life.

It is also quite possible that you two share a similar interest or hobby, which brought you together to begin with such as: playing guitar, shooting hoops or documentary films. It can be difficult to find new people to share these passions with. One of the best parts of transitioning from lovers to friends is that this common ground can still be shared and enjoyed with one another if you choose to remain friends.


  1. The article provides a thoughtful perspective on the transformation from lovers to friends, emphasizing the importance of mutual respect and patience.

  2. The advice given in the article about communicating boundaries and practicing patience seems quite practical.

  3. The mention of shared interests and hobbies as a potential basis for continued friendship is a valid point.

  4. I appreciate the article’s acknowledgment that not all breakups lend themselves to friendships and that this should be approached with sensitivity.

  5. The article rightly points out the difficulties that may arise in maintaining a post-breakup friendship and stresses the importance of mutual agreement.

  6. The article makes a good case for the benefits of retaining a friend who knows you intimately, suggesting it can be supportive.

  7. It is interesting to note that the article highlights the benefit of already established trust when transitioning from a romantic relationship to a friendship.


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